Hustle Burnout is real and an integral part of building a business. It is not the burnout itself that is the problem, it is how you treat yourself when it appears.
Monday is the best day to plan productive activities. Follow-up Friday’s to wrap up my week. Tuesday-Thursday are coaching days, and speaking engagements are sprinkled in throughout the week
Something very different happened in February. The month was filled with a lot of… downtime, that I was effective in turning around to productive days.
This presented a choice – beat myself up or learn from the experience You know what I did – I chose to learn…okay, maybe I beat myself up a little, yet realized very quickly that that was not helping the situation.
Here is the thing, if you are experiencing Hustle Burnout, the best thing to do is-
1. Accept that this is where you are – laying expectations on yourself that you should be someplace other than where you
are, is crazy-making. When you can approach the situation with more curiosity, than judgement, you’ll begin to uncover answers to
help you move forward. For now, be where you are, and be as easy on yourself as you would on your best friend or child.
2. Practice extreme self-care, while doing what it is necessary in your business – often burnout happens when your fountain
is empty. What is one thing you can do to fill your fountain so you can feel good again? Take a walk, bath or vacation? Read a
poem, book or magazine? Call a friend, your mother or a coach? Taking the time to do something for you, will give you the renewed
energy to perform the next right thing to do to move you towards your goals and intentions.
3. Figure out if there is something specific triggering the burnout – when you are curious with yourself, without
judgement, you can clearly see what may be causing this burnout. Take an inventory of your activities over the last week to
discover which are satisfying and which are not. At this time, spend more of your energy on what feels good and either delegate or
put aside the draining activities.
4. Make a few small shifts in your routine – This new awareness will let you to begin to make small adjustments in your
schedule and activities. Making change is essential to receive different results. Begin the new habits and practice them for at
least two weeks. Then move to the final step….
5. PDSA- Plan Do Study Act – this is the Deming approach to continuous improvement. As a business owner and as a person,
this part of the plan is essential. Imagine if Julia Child did not taste her Beef Bourguignon before publishing the recipe. You
know she did. She created the recipe, tasted it, adjusted it, tasted again and again before putting it on her show and in her
book. The same is true for each of you. Experiencing new habits allow you to experience new results.
Moving from burnout to contentment to excitement needs a new plan. Just like I have a new hair style – no more feathers for me, I had to do things a bit differently to get the new results I wanted.
By hustling to a new song, joy, fulfillment and excitement are now my moves. This is the best kind of rink to roll on – this is where the magic happens.
Everyone sing along… “Do the hustle…”
Those principles include:
These simple practices help you stay connected to what is important, balanced, and often sane.
This past Sunday the opportunity to attend my church of choice presented itself.
I put on my denim shorts, t-shirt, hat and shoes. I found my gloves and basket and opened the door to my favorite place to connect with spirit – my garden
We have been traveling a lot this summer, so my yard was not only abundant with zinnias, sunflowers, basil and tomatoes; there were also at least two bushel of weeds – woo hoo!
Believe it or not, I enjoy weeding. Even though they are green, lush and invasive, there is something cathartic in pulling them out of the ground. Whether it is clothes, books, relationships or weeds, I feel space opening up for more of what I desire, when I remove what no longer serves me.
As I was yanking and grabbing, the familiar thought of how weeds are like thoughts appeared.
When you put attention on what you are reading, watching and thus thinking about daily, it is easy to remove the weeds, aka“negative thoughts.”
However, when you begin to live by default and no attention is put on ridding yourself of internal or external negative influences, you feel the results of the weeds growing immediately.
That may show up as low energy, frustration, fear, disappointment and/or sadness and depression.
This is a place of contraction.
The crazy thing – we do it to ourselves.
All of a sudden the weeds are out of control and it feels overwhelming to deal with them. In the garden, you can hire someone to pull them for you.
In our mind, the equivalent to this would be asking for help. Sure, you could hire a coach or maybe a therapist, which can be seen as a Gardner for your mind.
The trick is to not allow those weeds to get out of control.
So what is Roundup for your spirit?
What I share with my coaching clients are the following practices. Yes, practice is the key word here. Creating a more positive and optimistic mindset, weed free, is something that has to happen everyday.
I am not saying you need to monitor every thought, that would make you crazy.
The three most important things you can do to keep your mind weed free is:
When you begin to implement these simple strategies for positivity, you will notice that you have more energy to accomplish what is important to you, your relationships will get better and as Stuart Smally once said, you are good enough, smart enough and gosh darn it, people like you.
Yes, these are simple strategies, but sometimes not always easy to begin. Use the one day at a time system, beginning with making a commitment to not let your weeds get to of control. They are always going, your job is to be the Gardner of your soul, so you can enjoy the beauty of living a life you love every day.
I say yes! I am a realistic optimist and believe that anything you desire is possible.
If you believe that it is holiday time and business is going to be slow, it probably will be. Your thoughts create a feeling and that feeling moves you into action…..or not.
If you choose for it to be busy, then most likely will you are correct and your actions will compliment that.
Here are 3 tips to support you in navigating the holidays and keeping your business growing and thriving.
What are you going to offer your clients in the first quarter? Create it now, plan it well and you will be ready to roll it out next year and reap the benefits of your pro-active planning.
What you put your attention on expands, so in review, set up a plan to attract clients with great marketing activities, try a new way of planning and working your plan to increase your productivity and last but not least, stay committed and focused on your goals-they are what will lead you to the best holiday celebration ever.
If there is one thing I am certain about is entrepreneurs are the busiest people I know. As most of you know, busy does not always equate to producing results. Whether you are an entrepreneur or an intrapreneur, results are king, cha ching.
As a business coach, and a bit of a fanatic when it comes to getting stuff done (one of my favorite motivator songs is A Little Less Conversation, A Little More Action by Elvis), I find it important to let you know 3 good hacks to increasing your productivity.
Doug was the dog in the movie UP that constantly was distracted by “squirrels”. When you have a project to complete, making sales calls, writing your blog or creating a new program, it is imperative to reduce the amount of distractions on your path. Turn the ringer off on your phone, close down your email and tell your coworkers, family and friends that for the next hour or two, you will be working on a project and do not want to be disturbed. If you are a doctor, this may be a problem. For the rest of you, you will be amazing how much you can accomplish with focused time.
2.Speaking of Interruptions….
Guess what, you will be interrupted (less when you set boundaries), so why not plan for it. The average worker in an 8 hour day should only plan on 6 hours of work getting done per day. Leave a little gap in your daily scheduling to allow for life to happen. When you do, you will feel less stressed and more apt to deal with the disruption with more ease and grace.
3.Pay Attention to What you Put on your Plate.
It is human nature to think you can accomplish more in a day than you really can (even when you stay on purpose.) Try planning this way – at the beginning of the week, use a paper calendar to write down everything you want to finish that week. At the end of each day, determine the three things, yes only three items, that are imperative you accomplish the next day. Stay firm on your decision to complete those three tasks first – before noon is best. The rest of your day you can deal with interuptions and your daily routine, knowing your most important tasks are done.
The best way to achieve to boost your productivity, is to engage in new activities. Pick one of these tips and weave them into your week. Email me with your successes – I cannot wait to learn about how productive you have been!
Have you ever pondered a decision for a long time and then, when the time was right, you acted on that decision?
I have been a speaker for many years and have pondered joining the National Speakers Association for a long time. Last month, I submitted my application and paid my dues! The act of saying yes to something I’d been thinking about for a long time was quite energizing.
I am looking forward to learning and growing with the amazing keynote speakers, facilitators and thought leaders in our city and the NSA.
I attended the August meeting and learned so much from Dr. John Molidor about how our brain processes information. He used this very fun activity in his talk called “Fact or Crap.” I am going to use this format today in my article about my coaching business – play along and see how you do.
Fact or crap:
People with a fixed mindset are smart and coachable.
Crap – They may be smart, but people with a fixed mindset, vs. a growth mindset think they are about as smart as they will ever be. Because they feel like they know what they know and cannot learn anything else, this quality deems them uncoachable at the moment.
They can change to a growth mindset with a strong intention and a plan to achieve that.
Fact or crap:
Stinking thinking smells like roses.
Crap – there is not aroma to negative thinking, just an unhelpful outcome to this activity. Negative and fear based thinking typically keeps people where they are. Shifting to supportive thinking helps people to feel good and perform better.
Fact or Crap:
What is perfect for you is perfect for your perfect client.
Fact! When business owners are clear on their values and set clear boundaries in alignment with those values they will attract ideal clients. When you train your clients on what those boundaries are you will attract more ideal clients and have less “imperfect” clients.
Fact or Crap:
Productivity increases when you work hard.
Crap – Studies show that regular breaks of 1.5 minutes increased worker productivity 6.45% and taking 2 minute breaks increased productivity by 11.15%.
2 minutes is good to stand and stretch.
Take a 20 second break to gaze 20 feet to relieve eye strain symptoms.
Fact or Crap:
Having a strategic business plan and not working it is better than not having a plan at all.
Crap – Either way, you are not setting themselves up for success. Without looking at your plan on a regular(monthly/weekly/daily) basis, you’ll experience increased mentally fatigue, have less money in your bank account than those who work a plan and will feel like you are not accomplishing much at all
Fact or Crap:
I offer complimentary Flourishing Strategy Sessions.
Fact – If you are interested in working with a coach, actually being coached by them is the best way to see if they are the right coach for you. I offer these to potential clients. Email Melanie@WendyWatkins.com to see if this conversation would be beneficial for you and your company.
Fact or Crap:
The Big Shift is going to help business owners learn how to make time in their business for a rich life.
Fact! This is a great opportunity to learn practical strategies and rituals to help you shift from busyness to productivity.
There are 9 spots left as of today. Click here to reserve your seat for my signature event.
We love the Olympics.
These athletes are a gorgeous example of having a big vision and going for it. They train for a lifetime, for their moment in the games.
The mental game is as important as the physical training. Seeing themselves cross the finish line first, before they even arrive to Rio, is essential to getting gold.
Yes, they have to be able to swim really fast, or jump really high. And, using the power of visualization assists them in reaching that lofty goal.
Harnessing the power of a positive mindset is what I’ll be teaching at The Big Shift event on September 10. This skill is as important for business owners, as it is for athletes.
I heard this quote during the games –
“We all have gold in us, only some choose to dig for it.”
It made me wonder what differentiates those that choose to be top in their field vs those that do not.
Here are some differences I see:
Where do you see yourself?
If you are like most business people, you have a combination of qualities. Some of them are helping you to be successful and reach your business goals.
Success is not just about reaching your business goals.
Success also means having a rich life overall, which is why The Big Shift is perfect to learn how to experience this type of inclusive success.
One where you are:
Working during the day and having time on the weekends to spend with your family and friends
Enjoying activities on a regular basis that help you to flourish, like time with colleagues that support your vision.
Confident and positive that you are on the right path, and know how to navigate the emotional rollercoaster of being a successful business owner.
This, to me, is achieving gold medal status on a regular basis.
This takes practice.
Being great in your field does not happen overnight – even though we all love instant gratification.
If you are looking for gold in your life, I invite you to join me at The Big Shift event on September 10.
At this event, you’ll be surrounded by other successful business owners who are intentionally creating a rich life…
…the kind of life you began your company for.
One where you are enjoying balance and big bank deposits. Time with your friends and family and fabulous clients and employees. Feeling good and going good – this is the life of a flourishing business owner.
The Big Shift event is your next level of training to live this kind of rich life.
Ticket prices are only $67 right now.
And, if you enroll today, you will be invited to a special webinar with me to help you clarify what your big shift is, so you have a running start before the day of the event.
It is your time, accept my invitation and join us on September 10 for The Big Shift event in Decatur
We all can use a little inspiration these days. Here are some of my favorite quotes for you to benefit from. Leave me your favorite quotes on my Facebook page.
“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” — Winston Churchill
“I’m a very positive thinker, and I think that is what helps me the most in difficult moments.” — Roger Federer
“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” — Willie Nelson
“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort. ” – Deborah Day
“Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths. ” – Etty Hillesum
“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. ” – Lucille Ball
“Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.” — Thomas J. Watson
“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” — Robert Kiyosaki
“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” — Steve Jobs
Independence day has a variety of meanings –
Celebrating America’s freedom from England in 1776.
Will Smith’s movies Independence Day
Or the day that you decide to reduce the amount of tolerations in your life.
That’s right – tolerations….
Those things, activities, people that you are putting up with, dealing with and letting take your precious energy and time.
On Monday, I offer you a cool new perspective to embrace around tolerations…
Uncover them, get curious and then… resolve the things you are putting up with in your life-
That dingy rug in the bedroom
The messy garage
The dirty car
The unfiled papers
The filed papers
If you experience the toleration epidemic – July 4 is the day to begin making a shift.
Take some time, maybe 15-30 minutes – depending on how long it takes you to process this concept.
Think about the things you are tolerating in your life – the people, activities and belongings you’re putting up with – make the list and begin the releasing process.
Don’t censor, just write them all down. Then look at the list and ask yourself, “What would life be like without this ________ in my life?” Would it increase my energy and joy… which in turn increases your engagement and productivity?
Now, prioritize what tolerations will be crossed off of the list first and enjoy every second of the crossing off activity with a black sharpie.
Give yourself ninety days to lessen your tolerations. New tolerations have a way of slipping in when you least expect it.
Learning to navigate their entry and exit is part of this process – embrace it!
Then you can figure out what you are going to do with a bit of extra energy…..let the fun begin!
Share your successes with me on Facebook. I cannot wait to hear what you have let go of and the positive impact it made on your day.
Here’s to your independence from tolerations!
Spending a week living on a boat and riding a bicycle on the Amalfi Coast was magical. Alexandra was an amazing tour guide and the other 3 couples we shared the space with were delightful (thank goodness!)
Here are three lessons I learned from this adventure:
Mindset –Optimism can be too much of a good thing! I’ve been riding a bicycle for almost 10 years. I live in Atlanta, where there are some very big hills. I felt like I was in good shape. I saw the terraces we were going to climb on the second day of riding. 5 vertical hills back to back with no warm up at all – in my mind, I had this. The problem was I attacked that hill with confidence and did not listen to my guide. She said “go slow in granny gear – one and one.” I thought, I am a hill climber, I got this and off I went like Speedy Gonzalez. Into the second hill, I had a hard time catching my breath. During the third terrace, I thought I may have to stop – what?? I never stop. At the fourth terrace, if I did not stop, I feared I would have a cardiac arrest. I stopped, took a break and finally made it to the top of the hill with a bruised ego and very tired lungs.
Lesson #1 – Go slow to go fast and take what the experts say to heart.
Self-Care –The foundation of a good vacation is good Self-Care. That looks different for everyone. For me, taking time to both be in the moment of the beauty of Italy (the gift of very limited Wifi) and writing in my journal, reflecting on what we experienced each day was an imperative part of my self-care. This combination was as delicious as pizza and wine.
Lesson #2 – Be in the moment and reflect on the good things that happen each and every day. This will shift your neural pathways and increase your Joy Factor!
Business –Always be prepared. One of the women on our boat was the Director of Catering for a large organization in Wisconsin. Even though I was there to relax, when the opportunity presented itself, we talked about our professional passions and I hope to be speaking at a conference in Wisconsin sometime soon.
Lesson #3 – Always have business cards and listen for the opportunity where what you do can complement what someone else does.